@lesleylaura I'm so glad you found us and have joined our community. Please know that you're not alone. This group comprises over 600 survivors across Canada, all here to share experience, encourage and support your journey.
Other than being stage 3c, versus 4 your experience somewhat mirrors mine and your question certainly resonates with me. I am accepting of the fact that by virtue of the nature of my OVC, I will never be cured (yes, I do believe in miracles but I'm also pragmatic) and often wonder how long I will consent to treatment to extend my lifespan versus opting for a higher quality of life towards the end. It's sure a struggle some days.
To date, I have had two recurrences. One a year and half after finishing front-line treatment which consisted of surgery and then six rounds of Carboplatin and Gemcitabine (my system couldn't tolerate Paclitaxel). For that first recurrence I was fortunate that a unique clinical trial was available for which I qualified and that trial managed my recurrence with out the necessity for chemo. After almost two years the drug failed and I am now undergoing chemo for this third recurrence, chemo being 6 cycles of Day 1 Carboplatin and Gem, Day 8 Gem only, Day 10 a Lapelga shot to boost my neutrofils and two weeks off (in all a 28 day cycle versus the 21 day cycle I was on the first time). I am now heading in to cycle 4 on the 24th. So far my response rate has been very high so in hopes of a full or acceptable partial response at the end of the 6th cycle, but prepared to go a full 9 if recommended. What's next? A PARP for maintenance is not an option for me so it will likely just be a matter of time before the next recurrence and how that's treated will be subject to whatever is appropriate at that time. I actually don't dwell on it anymore. When it comes back, we'll deal with it then.
For you, all I can say is that I don't look at statistics. I'm in my fifth year of survival so right now I've beaten the odds they first gave me. The trial I was on was forecasted to be a 50/50 chance of any effectiveness and that was only intended to stabilize my growth at the very low level it was when discovered. Instead, the drug shrunk my tumors by 75% in the first three months. It went on to stabilize growth for another year when they had projected no more than 3 months. So, were it me, I'd ignore the 30% chance and go for one more round...or at least try it before throwing in the towel. But before that, ensure my oncology team had explored all options for treatment for me...including clinical trials. I'm sure they have but it never hurts to ask the question about alternatives and why the paclitaxel is the recommendation. As I said, I do believe in miracles. When I recurred the first time I had no expectation that there would be something else out there for me other than traditional chemo. Timing was that I was given a miracle, for a time.
But whatever, it's your life and your choice how it's managed and how you want to live it. It sounds to me like you are well informed and understand the consequences of no treatment versus stopping that level of intervention. Whatever you choose I wish you peace and comfort. Please use this community to reach out any time we can help, if it's only to lend a ear or a shoulder to lean on. In the meantime, Lesley, I'm hopeful you'll hear from more of our sisters who are in the same situation or have experienced the same dilemma you are facing right now.
Sending virtual hugs your way.....
Kathi (Fearless)
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